What Does A Mediator Do In A Divorce?

During a divorce, it is not uncommon for emotions to run high and for one spouse to feel as if their needs are being overlooked.

After all, a divorce marks the end of the union between two people and more often than not, feelings of anger, regret, and greed can rise to the surface from one or both parties during the process. Even in amicable divorces, frustration with the cost and process can cause emotions to boil over.

Mediation is an excellent tool that can help divorcing couples regain control over the process. With mediation, a couple can be responsible for making the decisions that will impact their lives moving forward instead of having those important decisions being made by those who won’t be affected by them, like the lawyers and the court.
Of course, you still might be wondering – what does a mediator do in a divorce?

The Role of the Mediator in a Divorce

A mediator plays an important role in a divorce because this individual is a neutral third-party who has been specially trained to help couples resolve their disputes in a peaceful and effective way. They accomplish this by performing the following tasks:

  • Facilitating open communication between the parties by making sure each party is given an uninterrupted time to speak
  • Asking parties to clarify points when necessary
  • Asking questions to help make communication between the parties as clear and easy to understand as possible
  • Providing the parties with information about the legal system and divorce process
  • Describing how certain issues may be viewed by lawyers or judges
  • Providing fair and equal information on spousal support or child support
  • Identifying and exploring creative alternatives for solving certain issues
  • Referring the couple to reputable third-party experts for services such as appraisals when it’s appropriate

What to Expect When Working with a Mediator

When you choose mediation, you and your spouse meet with the mediator for a series of sessions. Each session usually lasts one to two hours. The length of time and number of meetings required varies depending on how long it takes for you and your spouse to reach agreements on all the required topics.

During your first meeting, you, your spouse, and the mediator will identify the issues that need to be discussed in the divorce case and the order in which they will be discussed. The mediator will help you decide what information needs to be gathered and shared, so you can bring the relevant documents to future meetings.

During consequent meetings, your mediator will facilitate discussions focusing on how to compromise on a range of important issues to help ensure the needs of both parties are met. The goal of mediation is for an equal and fair agreement to be reached on all issues. Once reached, the mediator drafts the agreement for review by each of the parties and their attorneys.

Let Our Mediators Help You Reach a Divorce Agreement That Works for You

Mediation Professionals of Long Island have experience helping divorcing couples agree to the terms of their divorce, so they can avoid the cost and time associated with divorce court. Our skilled mediators will help you and your spouse communicate with each other peacefully, so a fair and equal resolution can be reached. Contact us today at 646-992-7440 to learn more or click here to send us a message.

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